That sounds like a lovely colour to paint her room WM - I too am leaving the room until I am off work - figure it will give me something to do and then will have more time to go shopping for what I need as well.

Had a lovely morning catching up with friends then just boring afternoon cleaning/washing etc Day off has gone way to fast though and colleague e-mailed me to say work hasn't quietened down at all so dreading Thursday now!!! Gah!!! bring on April I say when I can stop work and put my feet up.

Lady Bee, I assume that is your fundal measurement? from under boobs to under bump? Well I just measured mine and its bigger than that and I am 26 weeks.
I wonder if my mw will have anything to say about that!!

A good day today, I seem to have a bit more energy these days which is good, I reckon it will be short lived though so I am trying to make the most of it!

Just off to bed now in fact.
Night all.

Off for polycose test this morning!! Tried to be good last night and had good breakfast to try and steer results in right direction Am not too worried as been checking my blood sugars randomly at work and they are always normal regardless of when I check them so this should be fine....
Not looking forward to drinking that drink at all though!!!

Have a good day everyone

Uggg, SIA, I did the glucose test yesterday, that drink is disgusting. Hope yours goes well. I get my results tomorrow.

We spent a very productive weekend getting our house ready for sale. We're thinking we might put it on the market in the next few weeks, hopefully it will sell but not till bubs is born... If it sells early, we might have to rent locally for a while, or (oh god) move in with the in laws for a bit as my obstetrician is in Wellington so we can't really move to palmy till after the birth. Plus, DH thinks the new job might not start till second semester anyway. But houses can take ages to sell so we want to get on with it. I'm quite excited about it all.

Oh exciting sweepy! Good luck and hope it doesn't take too long xxx fingers crossed.

SIA - I hope your test went ok. I haven't had a glucose test at all. Are we all supposed too or only for certain reasons?

BTW Sweepy. I notice it says you are 28 weeks and have about 74 days to go (ticker) which seems a lot less than my 89 days for 27 weeks 2 days. How does that work?? haha

Hi WM, thanks, it is exciting and helps distract me from scary birth fears too.

Have you been given a form for your 28 week blood test yet? The glucose test is done at the same time and is ordered on the same form for the lab. We all have to do one at 28 weeks I am pretty sure. Then if you pass it you're all good from there as far as that goes. Mine was fine last pregnancy so hoping for the same again.

Oh that's weird eh? Glad it's me with the shorter time though, ha ha! Wonder which one is correct? I can't calculate with my preggy brain.

WM - my MW gave me a form last week and just said to do this week even though I am only 26 weeks.

Test went fine BUT OMG the lab was packed and all the men were sitting comfortably in chairs and all the old women and preggy ladies were left standing!!!! AND none of those men once offered to give their seat up - honestly maybe things have changed and its ok to leave old people and preggy ladies standing in a hot stuffy packed room!!!
Lucky I didn't have to wait to be seen long and got put out the back to sit in the cool but when I went to leave this man was standing in the doorway and I couldnt' get past and I kept saying "excuse me please, excuse me please" and after the 5th time my tolerance level had dropped considerably (am thinking my BSL today will be fine as my tolerance levels drop considerably when my BSL drops) and I stared him in the eye and said in a not very nice tone or very nice words to get out of my way
Lucky I was going for coffee with friend afterwards as needed to calm myself a bit by time I got to her LOL
But other than that test went fine - phlebotomist complained about my "female, pregnant, chubby" arms as was really hard to get blood from me today Lady collapsed outside lab while I was having my test and they had to call an ambulance for her - poor lady - probably from having to stand for ages in hot waiting room and then having a blood test!!


WOW that was a long explaination about my exciting trip to the lab

Sweepy - best of luck with selling your house, how exciting! Hope it times well so you DON'T have to stay with inlaws

Hi all

Just back from a very long day at school. We had meet the teacher tonight so I just stayed on rather than coming home- I would not be able to muster the energy to go back there of I came home!!

All good today. Know that my mw will be giving me the forms for my test when I go to see her next week. Not looking forward to the disgusting drink!

My boobs have suddenly gotten really sore again- this happened to anyone else? wondering if it is the hormones kicking in again!!

Anyway, I am going to go and crawl into bed and get some much needed rest.

See you all tomorrow.

Thanks Sweepy, I am seeing my midwife next weds so will ask her then.
I have no idea which ticker is right either, hopefully yours though so then I won't have as long to wait!! Is anyone else starting to get over this and kinda wish 40 weeks was here already?

SIA - That is SO FREAKIN rude (re the lab stand) I would have been so mad! Bloody men have no idea what we have to go through sometimes!!!!! (oops that ruffled my feathers.)

Phish - my boobs got really sore for a day or so a few weeks ago, but all good now!

Winnie

Well I managed to fail my glucose test, so have to do another more comprehensive one tomorrow. Feeling like a big failure because I am overweight and don't eat properly and serves me right kind of thing, even though I'm on medication that causes weight gain (I used to be 57kg, and have gained about 25kg since starting the meds about 4 years ago). sucks.

Plus I had a big teary spill my guts kind of session with my obstetrician today, about my horrible birth with Ben and how scared I am, and she said I should seriously consider an elective cesarian at 39 weeks, that way everything is much more controlled and likely to be much better than last time. I feel on one hand that it would be a good idea, but I would need a general anesthetic because of some other health concerns and feel really crap about missing my baby's birth, especially as I couldn't hold Ben for several days after his birth and I feel like I missed out there. One option is to get DH to film it for me! I don't know.

Anyway, feeling quite down at the moment.

Hi all

Sweepy- so sorry to hear you are feeling down. 'failing' your test is not the worst thing. Are you being told to change anything? Diet etc? I am a bit worried about 'failing' my test too. I hope talking to someone about your birth has helped. I can only imagine how this is making you feel. Hugs to you.

I have been getting this odd feeling, which I assume is the baby moving that kind of feels like that scrapy cervix feeling you get when you have a smear test. Anyone else had that kind of feeling? You reckon it is bubs kicking down?

It feels a bit weird and a little well not sore, but uncomfortable if you know what I mean.

Hope all have been having a good day.

Phish - I am getting that as well at times - I think when baby has turned and has his feet down I get kicks down there and its like a sharp jolt almost.

Sweepy Don't be hard on yourself, no matter what you do sometimes its just really hard to control your BSL's, pregnancy does not make that easier as so many factors to take into account...sounds to me like you have really been doing the best you can....I know plenty of mums who have failed the polycose but go on to pass glucose tolerance so lets think positively that way for you and that is what is going to happen
I think with an elective cs it is much more controlled and so less likely to have post op complications that would prevent your from holding baby - would you feel comfortable posting a ?? in pregnancy general asking if anyone else has had an elective CS under general and how they were after....without knowing all the details (and I don't need to :)) it sounds like your birth with Ben was less than ideal and very traumatic so that would have contributed to you not being able to hold him......I know that first cuddles are important BUT Ben will grow up loving you because of the great mum you are now not cos you weren't able to hold him then AND it sounds like you are a great mum!!! So please be kind to yourself...I am sure you will make the right decision for this birth that will work out to be best for both you and bubba.

I am HOT!! Work was frantic but me and my good hard working colleague just plowed on today and have managed to get most of the workload cut in half for tomorrow so hopefully won't be too bad tomorrow. Have such sore feet - not swollen as such just sore! Counting down the weeks til I can finish up!

My boss was trying to get me to help with selection of candidates for short listing today and TBH I just didn't give two hoots!! I know it sounds mean but I won't be there so I don't honestly care right now who they pick - well of course I care that my colleagues get someone good to work with but I guess it was timing of my boss harrassing me about it as we were really frantic and she wants to discuss short lists I actually felt like going "enie meanie minie mo...." to pick the shortlist!

Just been to Salon Gee - got to love having a helpful little 6 year old She put my feet up on a foot rest and gave me a foot massage BLISS
Feeling pretty relaxed now...wonder if I can con dh to massage my feet as well yeah right!!

SIA - bless you for the sympathy re: chatterbox children, I do feel bad when I ask him for less chat, but for my own sanity I have taught him that there are times when I need 'quiet time' even if he doesn't!

Phish - yeah, it is. But I did a bit of googling about how it's normally done and they should have a feel to find where the uterus actually stops, because part of that bump under your ribs at this stage will be your stomach and other organs that have been shoved up out of the way. If you gently feel down from your ribs you can sometimes feel when the squishy stuff stops and a harder ridge starts and that's your uterus, which is where they should measure to. Hey ho, scan is on Tuesday next week and we'll see what they say then. Am feeling more chilled about it.

Winnermere - I think most women are recommended to have the polycose at 26-28 weeks? Maybe ask your MW or Dr the next time you see them?

SIA - good lord, can't believe how rude people can be -- I'm quite assertive when it comes to asking for a seat if needed, but so far haven't had to say anything to anyone. In London and commuting on trains or underground though, would frequently have to say 'I'm pregnant and feeling quite sick and dizzy, would someone kind mind offering me a seat?' Which usually works! And what is with the 'chubby, pregnant, female arms'???? argh, I think I would have been having a few homonal moments at that one. Sheesh.

Ah Sweepy, honestly, don't feel guilty or bad about the glucose test. Even if you do turn out to have developed gestational diabetes (like me!) it's just a body thing, nothing you did on purpose. Sure, there are some factors that increase your likelihood of having it, but women who have none of the factors still develop it, it can be chance as much as anything. And better to know and be able to treat, than not know, right?
Really sorry to hear you're struggling with the memories of your previous traumatic birth too. I guess an elective c-section is definitely one way to feel more in control of the situation and keep it calm. Unfortunately it's really unlikely your DH would be allowed in the theatre if you did have to have a general anaesthetic, although it's worth discussing that with your consultant, they might be more flexible. You say you couldn't hold Ben for several days - I had a c-section with my DS and did hold him immediately, both in the theatre and in recovery (where I fed him), but that was with an epidural. I guess if you had a GA you'd wait til properly recovered and awake before holding this one but it shouldn't be long, minutes rather than days. Best of luck making a decision - and don't hesitate to write about it here if that would help.

Think it's time to head to bed, hopefully for a less disrupted night tonight - was up twice last night, once to pee, then with cramps in my calf and then down front of leg..ouch! I've taken some magnesium supplement to see whether that helps. Fingers crossed.

DH is back late tonight - hurrah! Although that does mean I need to stop taking up quite so much room in the bed. Boo.

Hello ladies,
I hope you don't mind me joining you here, I've been thinking to join this thread for a long time now but I didn't want to jinx it; at 25 weeks I feel more reassured that things will go well... hopefully. Last time I fell pregnant I posted on the mums-to-be thread but that pregnancy ended up in a miscarriage so I didn't want the story to be repeated.

Anyway, it's nice to know your pregnancies are all going well. And there'll be so much pink in May how lovely!

We moved to the UK in November last year but I've been posting on this forum for a long time now and am very fond of it, and the lovely ladies who sign in and share their thoughts and stories on here... such a supportive group of women!

Welcome Orchid and of course you are more than welcome to join us - the more the merrier!
So glad you have made it to this stage safey - that must be a huge relief to you.

How is living in the UK? Do you have family over there?
Do you know what you are having or is it a surprise?

Nosey aren't I?

Thank you SIA.
We moved here for my husband's work and we don't have any family, in fact, I feel really lonely and I'm struggling a bit to settle to be honest. It makes a huge difference to have family and friends around to help with babysitting (DS is 16 months old) and looking after a newborn.... But I will manage somehow.

We are going to have a girl which is what I wanted really, after having my precious DS after IVF treatment. This time everything happened naturally and we are so happy we didn't have to go through another IVF cycle to get a sibling for DS.

I posted my due date on the Due Dates thread, it is 22 May but I am considering having an elective c section so I assume it will be at least a week earlier than that.

Sweepy, I was having the same worries about whether I should go ahead with a natural delivery or not but having that my experience with DS was not that great (failed to progress with a natural delivery, was not dilating enough and I felt useless and so miserable) and after many hours of trying I ended up having a c section. So try not to be so hard on yourself, it is not just the physical thing with this but also the psychological side of it, you really need to do what you think is best for you. At this stage, I really do not think that I would be able to get passed through another 'failure to progress' if that happens again. I hope this makes sense.

Hi to everyone else

Hiya Orchid11,

Nice to have you on board! Fantastic news of 25 weeks, congrats to you! I can imagine how hard it would be for you being over there by yourself (no family etc) Hang in there!

I am findign it extremely hard at work this week. The mornings are fimne but come the afternoon and I cannot keep my eyes open at work. It seems to be getting worse as the days go by. I am not sure how I will cope with 7 more weeks of this!

How is everyone else?

Winnie