Hi everyone.
HiJinx, that is the most beautiful box! it is beautiful!
everyone, reading the comments have made me feel like what i did not taking baby was the wrong decision because i spoke to the poeple at the hospital and they dont have my baby! all they have is the products from the d&c. in all fairness they did say they had "something" for me...and i let myself believe that it was baby. they said it was basically just blood they had and so i gave them permission to discard that themselves.
this passed week has been full of emotions and one good thing is that me and hubby have been talking more because we had to talk about what we were going to do with baby and stuff...sooo.
but today has not been a good day :-(
hope everyone else is keeping well...?
all your ideas were SSSOOOO appreciated, you wouldnt believe!

Oh clare I'm so sorry

Can I suggest you do those things you talked about anyway? Have a potted plant. Get a special box - write your baby a letter and put it in the box in place of baby. Buy a special necklace or other piece of memorial jewellery. Don't let this stop you ritualising your grief. I think most of us need the scaffold of some sort of ritual in order to grieve fully.

Kia kaha

when he shall die,
Take him and cut him out in little stars,
And he will make the face of heaven so fine
That all the world will be in love with night

Clare, big hugs and thinking of you.

So aweful to have one thought all organised in your mind to then have it changed. Great idea from Country mum above, still do everything you had planned for your little one.

thank you Country mum and Clemmy...yes i ahve written and poem, have bought a book and will have something i can scrapbook (because i love scrapbooking...) so i feel that will be a healing process...
#and Clemmy how are u???!
x

Awww thanks for asking, I am doing a little better each day! It is such a hard thing to go through and although I wish I wasnt part of the club I am glad for the wonderful women here to chat/vent to xxx Take care and that scrapbooking sounds like a lovely thing to do. I have horses so they have been getting a bit of attention, they are probably sick of hearing me talk about it though