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#2323833 - 09/01/12 01:59 PM Re: How do i get over this feeling?? [Re: moomoomoo]
Hazy Cloud Blah blah blah Registered: 06/08/04 Posts: 17221 Loc: Melbourne	DH was the same about going for #4, absolutely adamant that we were done. I grieved a lot about it, and I think that is the key, to realise it's a grieving process and allow yourself to feel that grief. It took me about 2-3 years of really struggling with it, and then I came right. Now I am happy that there is not a smaller one under DD and I'm enjoying them growing up and allowing our family to do different things. _________________________ Mum to 3 kids aged 8,12 and 17 years old. Full time photography student, mama and Scout leader. Juggling too many balls at once. "Go sell crazy someplace else. We're all stocked up here."
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#2328872 - 20/01/12 04:19 PM Re: How do i get over this feeling?? [Re: Hazy Cloud]
XmasTart Carpal tunnel Registered: 10/03/05 Posts: 2800 Loc: The Gardens, Auckland	been there doing that...short answer you (well me anyways) dont get over it...even less so when DH tells you to be gratefull for the one that you do have as "others have none blah blah" supportive not.... When your life plan is taken out of your control it is quite a hard pill to swallow....but to that end i am greatfull for the one i do have....just living a life of incompleteness...I hope you resolve your feelings and find peace though _________________________ Time provides the best return on investment when it comes to your kids...spend like there is no tomorrow!
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#2330593 - 25/01/12 05:01 PM Re: How do i get over this feeling?? [Re: XmasTart]
Chicken Licken Chatterbox Registered: 09/12/06 Posts: 8369	Im in the same boat RD. You dont get over it. You get rid of everything you have (and save some outfits and toys from each child lol), but you will always have that longing in your heart. Even once you see the things you will have to do again (toilet training, nappy changes, night feeds etc), you still want that little baby to hold For me, knowing that I was lucky to have Mr7 after what I went through as a child and then being lucky to have Mr4 after what went through after having Mr7 helps me to realise that I am lucky to have what I have. I also think about all the things I can do now that I have my baby almost starting school. The longing never leaves me, it goes dormant and comes back again and its hard, but in respect of my DH I dont push him for another child. He knows I want one and thats out there and he is the one in control now. If and when he is ready, there will be another. One thing I learnt from others on here, is that you need to put your feelings aside and think of it from your DH view. Its money, time, everything and that is stressful on a man especially if he is the one that is making the money to support the family and you need to respect that I hope things work out for you _________________________ one surprise December 2011 First they ignore you. Then they laugh at you. Then they fight you. Then you win.” – Mahatma Gandhi
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#2336383 - 09/02/12 01:05 PM Re: How do i get over this feeling?? [Re: Chicken Licken]
RD _ Obsessed Registered: 13/10/05 Posts: 11500	Umm guess he should have gone for the vasectomy...... In complete shock!! _________________________ My Clomiphene Babies Jorja - my big 4 year old! Lockie - on the way to 2! and sneaky #3 - a surprise natural conception due 12th October 2012 - Its another
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#2336394 - 09/02/12 01:17 PM Re: How do i get over this feeling?? [Re: RD _]
Lisa W Legend Registered: 27/12/06 Posts: 5334 Loc: Christchurch	OMFG RD!!!! fabulous news I'm so pleased for you Bet you're not getting rid of that baby gear now _________________________ Lisa - Coeliac Disease & PCOS
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#2336403 - 09/02/12 01:27 PM Re: How do i get over this feeling?? [Re: RD _]
JubJub Chatterbox Registered: 06/07/05 Posts: 8945 Loc: East Auckland	Originally Posted By: RD _ Umm guess he should have gone for the vasectomy...... In complete shock!! Well there you go, decision made for you! _________________________ AJ Nov 05
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#2336410 - 09/02/12 01:39 PM Re: How do i get over this feeling?? [Re: JubJub]
3boys Legend Registered: 28/05/08 Posts: 5503 Loc: Auckland	Oh my RD!!!!!!#! Is your husband OK with it? We ummmed and ahhhhed about being finished then just as we decided yes we were finished we got a complete surprise too. You just never know were the twists in the path of life lie! It took me a long time to get over it (and sometimes I'm still not over that surprise) but he's just such a blessed addition to our family as I'm sure yours will be too - once you both get over the shock. Congratulations!!! ...And once he was born we were both very, very certain that we were well and truly done . He completes our family perfectly. _________________________ DS1 Feb 02; DS2 Oct 04; DS3 June 07 Food & environmental allergies, eczema, anaphylaxis, hayfever, food chemical intolerance and asthma. Treat the earth well: it was not given to you by your parents, it was loaned to you by your children. ~ Ancient Indian Proverb
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#2336417 - 09/02/12 01:51 PM Re: How do i get over this feeling?? [Re: 3boys]
*Neats* Legend Registered: 05/02/09 Posts: 5851 Loc: Hawkes Bay	Wow RD - decision made for you I guess! I hope your DH and you are both excited - huge congratulations on your wee surprise! _________________________ One happy little family http://livegreenforaweek.blogspot.co.nz
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#2336432 - 09/02/12 02:06 PM Re: How do i get over this feeling?? [Re: Neats]
maquis Legend Registered: 12/01/04 Posts: 6186 Loc: Kiwi in Kent	Congrats RD!!!! We ummed and ahhed about #3 and for one month we were undecided.. and that's all it took Hard work at the beginning, but is a very welcome addition to our family _________________________ Maggie DS ~ May 2004 DD ~ Sep 2006 DS ~ Nov 2008
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#2336506 - 09/02/12 05:46 PM Re: How do i get over this feeling?? [Re: maquis]
felicis Feliciousness Registered: 14/08/06 Posts: 50999 Loc: Auckland	OMG, that has made me giggle so much. Far out, awesome! _________________________ Inspire deeply, expire slowly “It’s the quality of one’s convictions that determines success, not the number of followers.” - Remus Lupin
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#2336516 - 09/02/12 06:24 PM Re: How do i get over this feeling?? [Re: felicis]
starryeyed Carpal tunnel Registered: 01/05/06 Posts: 2759 Loc: Dunedin	Congratulations! Hope your DH is coping well with the news _________________________
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#2336517 - 09/02/12 06:28 PM Re: How do i get over this feeling?? [Re: Lisa W]
Twitch Obsessed Registered: 14/10/04 Posts: 12532 Loc: QLD, Australia	too funny HUGE Congratulations!! _________________________ plus 1 ectopic and 5 m/c's (incl a PMP) Living on the Sunshine Coast, Australia
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#2336518 - 09/02/12 06:29 PM Re: How do i get over this feeling?? [Re: Twitch]
Twitch Obsessed Registered: 14/10/04 Posts: 12532 Loc: QLD, Australia	Oh and i really hope your DH is ok with the news and is coming around to the idea. _________________________ plus 1 ectopic and 5 m/c's (incl a PMP) Living on the Sunshine Coast, Australia
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#2336525 - 09/02/12 06:46 PM Re: How do i get over this feeling?? [Re: Twitch]
RD _ Obsessed Registered: 13/10/05 Posts: 11500	Hes coping better than me! Hes telling his parents and gran and hes all excited! I'm still shocked, just wandering around the house in a daze! _________________________ My Clomiphene Babies Jorja - my big 4 year old! Lockie - on the way to 2! and sneaky #3 - a surprise natural conception due 12th October 2012 - Its another
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#2336530 - 09/02/12 06:54 PM Re: How do i get over this feeling?? [Re: RD _]
Lisa W Legend Registered: 27/12/06 Posts: 5334 Loc: Christchurch	I'm so pleased that he's excited RD. He must be to be going round telling people already. Perhaps it was just a pressure thing with finances etc. and now fate has played it's role. Stoked for you!!! _________________________ Lisa - Coeliac Disease & PCOS
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#2336548 - 09/02/12 07:33 PM Re: How do i get over this feeling?? [Re: Lisa W]
Goat Ancient Registered: 25/12/05 Posts: 3604 Loc: Canterbury	Haha brilliant RD I'm so pleased for you!! _________________________ DS J - March 1997 DS L - May 2006 DS C - March 2011
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#2336557 - 09/02/12 07:51 PM Re: How do i get over this feeling?? [Re: Goat]
K5 n J3 Chatterbox Registered: 24/06/06 Posts: 8231 Loc: Palmerston North	Wow congratulations RD. And LOL to your DH being excited about it while you are wandering around in disbelief.
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#2336564 - 09/02/12 08:05 PM Re: How do i get over this feeling?? [Re: K5 n J3]
Madam Chatsalot Know it all! Registered: 08/02/03 Posts: 30726	I know that feeling well LOL, congrat's to you all, RD! _________________________ The insanity of consumption bothers me. Talk about the opiate of the masses. It ain't religion any more. It's stuff. Why don't governments stop people from making crap? Muuuuum! to G, J & K
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#2336566 - 09/02/12 08:15 PM Re: How do i get over this feeling?? [Re: Madam Chatsalot]
Chook Legend Registered: 10/03/06 Posts: 4599 Loc: Christchurch	Massive congrats RD _________________________ 04/05
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#2336863 - 10/02/12 11:03 AM Re: How do i get over this feeling?? [Re: Chook]
Kezzaboo Ancient Registered: 29/07/05 Posts: 3775 Loc: Christchurch	Huge congrats RD Hope you are feeling better about it today _________________________ “Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.” Dr. Seuss
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