my 13yo brother (who has ADHD, asperges (?Sp) and dyslexia) is continually being excluded from school trips and some sporting events because of his conditions. My parents have fought with the school for his rights but doesn't make any difference. Any tips?

Do the school give a reason? Another option could be that the parents or another person goes with him on the school trips if he is needing that one on one and the school is unable to provide it withen their ratio.

because he is disrutive in class. lthe school are aware my parents are willing to go, or i am if need be but doesn't change it. they hv new principal and she doesn't want my brother at that school

This happens all to often!!!! Sometimes people use their respite care hours for someone to go with the child / person. This means that you brother would have a person the your parents trust and who knows your brother to go on the school trips with him. This takes the pressure of the teachers and allows your brother to attend these activities.
You could check with you parent to see if this could be an option for your brother

They have people willing to go along with my brother and the school is aware of this. The principal is biased against my brother, he is not that bad and can know tell if he can't handle a situation, and he will tell someone if he not coping.

my parent's hv gotten parent2parent involved, ministry of education and disability commision and threatened legal action. this maybe his last year at this school as he off to high school. mum is fighting to prevent other families from going through it. It's discrimination pure and simple

The school can't legally excluded him from school trips. But if he has any kind of issues that prevent him from part taking fully in the activities of the trip or medical conditions that would put a strain on the other kids/teachers or himself then I think he needs to be fully supported on all school trips/outings, camps by someone within his family to ensure everyone has a positive experience.

I think that if your brother is well supported at school by his parents and their is a good/open relationship between the teacher and your parents about his condition that most problems can be resolved before they get to this point of frustration.

Maybe it's time for a family meeting with the school to sort out some of the difficulties everyone is having so that his remaining time at the school is positive for him.



Good luck.

This sort of problem is more common than most realise amongst young children with ADHD. As most people are aware that exclusion only adds to negative feelings in children and young people reinforcing the idea that they are 'naughty' and unwelcome. I know this because we experienced this with our child and at it's extreme.

What does concern me is of the new principle's view on your brother. If this meeting with parent2parent doesn't pan out or that your brothers exclusion from activities continues. From past experience I would watch the waters at school very closely because things can go down hill very quickly.

Little do these schools know that participating in:
activity exclusions, stand-downs, expulsion from schools refusal from other schools does not assist in the development of the child's self-esteem.

The development of self-esteem is so crucial in ADHD children so they can feel proud of who they are and what they do. Self value and respect gives our children/brothers and sisters the power to believe in their abilities and the courage to try new things. It helps them develop respect for themselves, which in turn leads to being respected by other people.

Unfortunately some educational institutions are failing miserably and illegally (Child Rights). Yet they seem to get away with this frequently >> why? >>

Most parents of children are so down trodden by the behaviours of professionals that they no longer have the energy to fight the system for equality for their child.

If brought out into the arena of the media (transparency) of how many children are being disadvantaged, discriminated, abused injustices within the education system would be appalled.

Hi Ayah this is a very good post from you thanks. It has given me somthing to think about with my son who does have self esteeme issues due to friends excluding him. He wont go to cubs anymore because he is lacking social confidence, he wont try anything new because he thinks he is not capable. He tells himself he is an idiot and stupid.

I must admint my partner and I have not been very switched on in this department and have struggled to deal with his behaviour let alone pump up his self esteem.

Hopefully we can get some assistance with that as we have asked for a referral to a centre in Auckland that deals with spectrum children and we can work through some of these issues with him.

It is going to be good to get some professional help at long last.