Thanks Olivia and all other Crohn's/UC thread followers for your support.

As an aside Olivia, how are you doing - bump - you haven't been in touch on this EBB thread for a while re your condition ? That's ok if you want to remain private - just concerned hon, that's all, and hoping you are o.k

Almost 3 months since DS's surgery and he's doing ok, but not brilliantly in my opinion. The surgeon is very happy, but his perspective is a little different and physically, not holistically focussed.
We were warned that after the initial post-surgical period of recovery, there would be a "honeymoon" period of absolute bliss, and this proved to be true. We were also warned that the true result of the surgery would not be known for about 3 months,and may not be as wonderful as first indications may show; and this too seems to be true.
The strange post operative pain centred around the spleen area seems to be the new persistant pain, and is clearly NOT the gut adjusting to being handled as we were first told. It is not consistently severe or persistent enough to require further medical investigation at this point, but that doesn't mean we are not extremely concerned as to what this may mean. As this is probably indicative of an area of severe inflammation in the small intestine, we are all beginning to wonder where we are headed next.
Weight gain has been nil. 178cms and 62kgs going into surgery,(and probably only at that level due to steroids) DS dropped to 56 prior to discharge. He managed to gain a kilo, but has lost that again. Energy levels remain very low, but there has been a little improvement in that area over the last few weeks, so steady as we go there.
As another positive, bowel motions are now down to averagely 3-4 a day. This beats the 8-12 prior to surgery. Mucous and bleeding are also less of an issue, but each trip to the toilet requires a shower. Sphincter control is still good too, so no accidents, and not the sense of urgency either that we were told may follow the ileo-caecal re-section.
My main concern now is for his emotional well being. As you sufferers know, Crohn's is an insidious disease. Normality disappeared for DS as the symptoms took hold, and the life he is living now bears no resemblance to that of his 17 year old friends. Their support in general terms has been limited due to the egocentric nature of teenagers. I am very grateful for the one true and steadfast friend he has, and for 2 others, who God help them, understand completely, but from a different level. They both have CF and are dying.
There is a real grieving process involved in being diagnosed with an illness that is so debilitating. We have grieved as parents for all our son has lost. It is a difficult thing to try to explain to an outsider, and even more difficult for him to cope with. He is living it. I hope at some point he will take me up on the offer of professional councelling as I feel he does need it. He has had it before and knows the benefits to be gained, so his reticence currently does not phase me.
All this said, we are in a much better place physically in general terms than prior to the surgery. It had to be done. But as all you sufferers know, the journey to that point takes a toll, but the journey doesn't end there. This is the reality that DS is clearly having trouble getting his head around.
Any tips from those of you adults who have walked the same path as teenagers ?
